Growing up, my mom would constantly tell me “Be in a hurry to go slow.” Naturally, the wisdom she was teaching was overlooked. After navigating through life, I came back to water the seed that was planted. My mom was “schooling” me on a key ingredient to BECOMING the best version of myself.
“Patience is also a Form of Action” -Auguste Rodin
PATIENCE is that trait we tell everyone to possess, yet we forget to practice it ourselves.
We are forever EVOLVING. It is important to understand it’s okay not to have it all figured out. It is necessary to be kind to yourself. The journey to becoming the best version of ourselves is continuous.
Patience is the key to SUCCESS in every area of life.
Two years ago, I struggled with a lot of uncertainty and anxiety; constantly carrying stress. The desire to cultivate patience was there but I had yet to implement the necessary habits.
In order to become more patient, it was necessary to identify my triggers. A large contributor to my impatience was rushing from goal to goal; never stopping to smell the roses. My life was a constant rush.
One of my biggest struggles was living life on a timeline. Slowly, I had become a “Box Checker”. A Box Checker is someone who has a list of accomplishments they wish to achieve; they base their fulfillment of life on the boxes they check or do not check. The problem with being a box checker, is you forget to add “Life Happens” and “Gods Timing”.
While developing a more patient lifestyle, it is important to ignore the pressure of societal norms.
Sometimes, societal norms will make you a box checker. For example: go to school, get a good job, get married, buy a house, have kids and so on. It is an unspoken structured way of living. However, life is not a one size fit all. Once I stopped living life as a box checker, not only was I more patient with myself, I was much happier.
After identifying my triggers, I added healthy habits into my daily routine; by practicing yoga, meditating and keeping a journal. Immediately, I grew more patient. The addition of these healthy habits forced me to slow down. When you slow your brain waves down you are usually slower to react, which allows patience to take effect.
By being patient with ourselves it allows time to grow us into the individuals we were placed on earth to be.
“Patience is the calm acceptance that things can happen in a different order than the one you have in mind”-David G. Allen
Patience is the will of GOD.
Patience is EMBRACING where you are right now.
Patience is knowing that what is for you is for you, and what is not for you will never be for you. No matter how much you FORCE it.
Patience is knowing that everything will work out even when you cannot see LIGHT at the end of the tunnel.
Patience is UNDERSTANDING that there is no such thing as overnight success.
Patience is Avoiding Instant Gratification
Life is more meaningful when our goal is fulfillment rather than instant gratification.
Ultimately, practicing patience is exercising more self control and delaying gratification (or avoiding instant gratification).
When we see life as a sprint instead of a marathon, the probability to become impatient is greater.
Instant Gratification is the need to experience fulfillment without any sort of delay. The ability to wait, has become a lost art. We have become a microwave generation. We want things to happen within a blink of an eye; especially in such a “right now” society, where social media has contributed to the illusion that everything should or can happen in an instant. The secret comparisons and lack of self awareness are hindering the most key ingredient to success, which is patience.
Nothing is instant. The individuals you see that are successful in a certain area; became accustomed to having patience at some point in their own personal journey.
Of course, it can be uncomfortable to wait or practice patience, but the greater reward later will be a better feeling than right now.
Four Ways to Become More Patient
- Focus on the journey more than the destination (Embrace the present moment and enjoy the process)
- Forgive yourself more (Be flexible, avoid beating up on yourself when things do not go exactly as planned)
- Practice taking more than single thoughts before taking action. (Slow yourself down, take moments, days, weeks or even months to think before making a decision).
- Do not rush ( You cannot skip levels during the process of “Leveling up”).
Patience allows you to focus on the BIGGER picture instead of just what is only right in front of you. Your life will change once you start to apply the concepts of patience.